Mutual No Contact In Parenting and Asset Case

My ex and I are in the process of finalizing custody, parenting time, and dissolution of assets. We have a temporary parenting plan in place with established 50/50 custody. The ex’s lawyer is suddenly asking for a mutual no contact order that asks both parties to not intimidate, interfere, or menace the other party or child as an addition to the temporary parenting plan. At no point has any of this behavior occurred in the separation. The order restricts both parties from being within 20ft of each other and attending any locations or activities that the other parent is at first.

I am an involved parent and want the ability to attend my child’s extracurricular activities, school events, graduations, etc. This is not behavior I have engaged in or intend to engage in. At this point in the process, I am truly only concerned about my child and being the best parent possible for them and supporting them through a tough time.

I am concerned that by agreeing to this, my ex will use it as a tool of control.

Can anyone speak to whether it is advisable or acceptable to not agree to something like this? Does anyone have experience with these types of agreements and how they impacted childcare or were used against them by a vindictive ex? Any and all advice is welcome.

It’s crucial to consider your child’s needs first. If you genuinely haven’t engaged in any intimidating behavior, it seems unreasonable to agree to such a restrictive order.

You should definitely consult with your attorney about this. A no-contact order can have serious implications on your parenting time and involvement in your child’s life.

I had a similar situation where a no-contact order was used against me. It created unnecessary tension and made co-parenting even harder.

Monroe said:
I had a similar situation where a no-contact order was used against me. It created unnecessary tension and made co-parenting even harder.

That sounds frustrating. I want to avoid a similar outcome.

Make sure to document all interactions with your ex. If they do try to manipulate the situation, you’ll have evidence to support your case.