My child’s father was arrested last night for beating his pregnant girlfriend... what should I do?

Seeking Advice
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I’m really sad that my ex’s behavior has finally come to light this way. A few years back, he beat me and when the cops showed up, they didn’t believe me. Last night he was arrested for beating his soon-to-be second baby mama. The courts have been dismissive of all the disrespect and threats he’s sent me over the years. He fought for 50/50 custody, but most of the time he just drops our daughter with an aunt. He doesn’t have a job and was living with the pregnant girlfriend’s father, so I doubt he’ll have a stable living situation now since she’s filing for an order of protection. I’m worried he won’t be stable enough to see her regularly. Does he still get visitation rights? I don’t want to take him out of her life, but I feel guilty letting him see her when he clearly has anger issues and abuses alcohol. Any advice would be appreciated

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That’s a really tough situation. If he’s been abusive, you should prioritize your daughter’s safety first

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Eden said:
That’s a really tough situation. If he’s been abusive, you should prioritize your daughter’s safety first

Yeah, I just don’t want to completely cut him off. It feels wrong, but I’m so worried

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If he’s unstable, you might be able to limit his visitation. Make sure you document everything he does

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Cruz said:
If he’s unstable, you might be able to limit his visitation. Make sure you document everything he does

Good idea! I’ll keep a record of everything. Just wish it didn’t have to be this way

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I’d definitely consult a lawyer about your options. They can help clarify your rights

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YukiJane said:
I’d definitely consult a lawyer about your options. They can help clarify your rights

For sure, that’s on my list. Just feels overwhelming right now

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It’s hard when you want to protect your child but also don’t want to break family ties. Take your time to figure it out

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Orin said:
It’s hard when you want to protect your child but also don’t want to break family ties. Take your time to figure it out

Thanks, it helps to hear that. I’m just scared of making the wrong choice

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Sounds like he needs to sort out his issues before seeing your daughter. Trust your instincts

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Pinkfong said:
Sounds like he needs to sort out his issues before seeing your daughter. Trust your instincts

I appreciate that. I just want to make sure I’m doing right by her