My ex doesn't get the kids in the morning... what do I do?

Seeking Advice
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Hey guys, my ex and I have two kids together, and I need some advice. I work at 7 AM, and we agreed that she would pick them up in the morning and take them with her. Lately, though, she’s been lagging and waiting until 9 or 10 AM to get them. My kids are 12 and 8, and she claims that since they’re sleeping, it’s not neglect. The other day, she dropped them off at 9 PM, and they told me she hadn’t fed them all day. When I confronted her about it, she admitted she hadn’t fed them and said she was tired and sick. What should I do here?

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That sounds really concerning. Have you thought about talking to her again about what’s going on? It’s not okay for the kids to go without food.

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Harper said:
That sounds really concerning. Have you thought about talking to her again about what’s going on? It’s not okay for the kids to go without food.

I’ve tried, but she gets defensive. I just want to make sure the kids are safe and taken care of.

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@Jade
Totally get that. Maybe you could document everything and consider talking to a lawyer if it keeps happening.

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I’d be worried too. It’s not just about the mornings; what happens when she has them for longer periods? You might need to set some boundaries.

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NAVEAH said:
I’d be worried too. It’s not just about the mornings; what happens when she has them for longer periods? You might need to set some boundaries.

Exactly! I feel like I need to establish some clearer expectations.

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Have you considered getting a formal custody agreement? That could help clarify responsibilities.

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Celeste said:
Have you considered getting a formal custody agreement? That could help clarify responsibilities.

I’m starting to think that might be the route to go. It’s just hard to navigate these conversations.

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It’s really important for kids to have a consistent routine. You might want to remind her of that and how it affects them.

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Rachel said:
It’s really important for kids to have a consistent routine. You might want to remind her of that and how it affects them.

I’ve mentioned it before, but it seems to go in one ear and out the other. Frustrating.

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You’re doing the right thing by being concerned. Keep advocating for your kids, and don’t hesitate to seek legal advice if needed.

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Jody said:
You’re doing the right thing by being concerned. Keep advocating for your kids, and don’t hesitate to seek legal advice if needed.

Thanks, I really appreciate the support. Just want what’s best for them.