I’m seeking advice regarding a custody issue. The current order allows parenting time with both children, but the other parent wants to spend time with only one child and have overnights with just the older one. I prefer not to split them up. Looking for insights on how family courts typically view such requests.
Is the parent wanting to take the 4-year-old alone sometimes? It’s quite normal for parents to do age-appropriate activities with one child at a time. Is there any chance you could discuss this with the other parent directly? As the younger one grows older, the situation might change.
@Phoenix
That’s my fear, that this preference won’t change as the younger one grows. It seems more about favoritism towards our oldest rather than quality time with each child. I’m concerned this could set a harmful precedent.
@Ivy
He might want to bond with the younger one as they get older.
Make sure to document all parenting times with each child and any concerns you have.
Family courts typically don’t force parents to take all their allotted parenting time. If one parent prefers spending time with just one child, it’s not uncommon, especially when the younger child is very young. However, it’s crucial to discuss and possibly formalize a parenting plan that ensures fairness and avoids favoritism issues.
@Tanner
Thank you for your insight. My concern is about maintaining the sibling relationship and preventing favoritism. How can we ensure a fair arrangement moving forward?
Ivy said:
@Tanner
Thank you for your insight. My concern is about maintaining the sibling relationship and preventing favoritism. How can we ensure a fair arrangement moving forward?
It’s understandable that you want to avoid favoritism affecting your children. Documenting these concerns and discussing a step-up plan with legal advice could help ensure fairness as they grow.
Ivy said:
@Tanner
Thank you for your insight. My concern is about maintaining the sibling relationship and preventing favoritism. How can we ensure a fair arrangement moving forward?
Have you documented your concerns about favoritism via the court app? It’s essential to have these issues documented for future legal considerations.
@Tanner
I’ve expressed concerns through our court app. Currently, he’s not taking all his scheduled time and no overnights yet. I’m also considering play therapy for the younger child to address any impacts.
@Ivy
You’re taking the right steps. Keep advocating for your children’s best interests.
Tanner said:
@Ivy
You’re taking the right steps. Keep advocating for your children’s best interests.
Thank you! 
