So, here’s my situation… DHS officers went to meet my husband at his foster kids’ school and asked about our living situation. He told them we don’t live together, which is true because we’ve been having issues. But we still talk and see each other regularly while working on things. He lives with his family, but I’ve tried to meet them, and he’s always got excuses. I have text messages that prove all this. Now I’m wondering—should I withdraw my I-485 application? It’s starting to feel tainted, but IDK if that’s the right move. Any advice?
Sounds messy. Did DHS tell you anything directly? Or is it all just what your husband told you?
Jones said:
Sounds messy. Did DHS tell you anything directly? Or is it all just what your husband told you?
They haven’t contacted me yet. It’s all from him. He told me a few days after it happened, but IDK if I fully believe him.
Jones said:
Sounds messy. Did DHS tell you anything directly? Or is it all just what your husband told you?
Wait, so he didn’t even tell you right away? That’s kinda shady. Have you considered asking DHS for clarification?
If you’ve got text messages and photos, that’s good evidence. Did you submit any of that already?
Alayna said:
If you’ve got text messages and photos, that’s good evidence. Did you submit any of that already?
Yeah, we submitted a lot—pics, joint accounts, all that stuff. Even had copies during the interview.
Alayna said:
If you’ve got text messages and photos, that’s good evidence. Did you submit any of that already?
If you already gave them that, maybe focus on showing how you’re still trying to work on the relationship. Like recent stuff.
Why not try uploading screenshots of your recent messages? If you’re talking every day, that could help.
Paden said:
Why not try uploading screenshots of your recent messages? If you’re talking every day, that could help.
Good idea. We text every day about everything—our day, gym stuff, random things. Should I upload those?
Paden said:
Why not try uploading screenshots of your recent messages? If you’re talking every day, that could help.
If it shows you’re still close, it might be worth it. But maybe talk to a lawyer first to see if it’ll actually help.
Could traveling together now make a difference? Like, if you have recent trip receipts or something?
Margaret said:
Could traveling together now make a difference? Like, if you have recent trip receipts or something?
IDK if it’s enough. We don’t have anything recent like that right now.
Margaret said:
Could traveling together now make a difference? Like, if you have recent trip receipts or something?
Honestly, it might help if you can show ongoing efforts to stay connected. Even small stuff adds up.
If you’re thinking of withdrawing, who writes the letter—you or him?
Nile said:
If you’re thinking of withdrawing, who writes the letter—you or him?
Not sure. I’m leaning toward me writing it, but does it even matter? Like, should I just restart to avoid rejection?
Nile said:
If you’re thinking of withdrawing, who writes the letter—you or him?
If rejection is a risk, restarting might be smarter. Less messy that way, IMO.