So the children’s parent A has a birthday coming up on a weekday. They told the kids they would be spending the night with them, but it’s actually parent B’s custody day. Parent A didn’t discuss anything with parent B and just casually mentioned it to the kids. I’ve been trying to find Ohio guidelines, but I keep only finding documents related to children’s birthdays. Parent A is high conflict and has caused issues during previous holidays. Right now, we only have temporary orders, and there’s no holiday schedule specified. I vaguely recall reading something about school nights allowing birthday celebrations only until 8 PM, but I can’t find the actual recommendation. Any advice?
If you don’t have anything specific about dates in your orders, then I would just follow the existing order. It might also help to ask for all communication to go through a court app so that changes can’t be made without discussion. Try to keep things polite to maintain peace.
@Nichole
Yeah, I have a high conflict ex too. I never change custody days or times. You really have to stick to the court order or it can lead to more issues.
It sounds frustrating. But if you deny the visit, it might escalate things even more. I think it’s best to let them have their birthday time and work it out later in court.
Xan said:
It sounds frustrating. But if you deny the visit, it might escalate things even more. I think it’s best to let them have their birthday time and work it out later in court.
Exactly, if you don’t allow them to celebrate, it could come back to bite you when it’s your turn.
Make sure to document everything. Using an app can help with that. If parent A follows the order and makes a reasonable request, then don’t make it a big issue.
Tan said:
Make sure to document everything. Using an app can help with that. If parent A follows the order and makes a reasonable request, then don’t make it a big issue.
For sure, clarity about pick-up and drop-off times is essential. Keeping a record will help down the line.
I totally get how annoying this situation is. But since you only have temporary orders, you might have to take the high road until things are settled.
Holt said:
I totally get how annoying this situation is. But since you only have temporary orders, you might have to take the high road until things are settled.
Yeah, it’s tough. But in the long run, sticking to the order will benefit you.
It’s been a while since your divorce started. Just remember that it will be worth it when you finally get the final order.
Caitlin said:
It’s been a while since your divorce started. Just remember that it will be worth it when you finally get the final order.
Hang in there. Once it’s finalized, you can set clearer boundaries.