What would you do?

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Hi,

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

My ex(36F) is trying to deplete me financially by going to her lawyer to communicate with me. She makes up stories and blames me for not being a good co-parent.

Now, she makes 2x more than me and her parents are wealthy.

We have shared custody (50/50) but she doesn’t like the fact that the kids (6&8) prefer to be with me(36M).

What would you do? Im trying hard to communicate with her and soon, I won’t have the funds to pay my lawyer.

Thank you

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You don’t need a lawyer for communication. Get a parenting app. You don’t have to go through her lawyer to discuss day to day stuff about the kids. And until she files something in court, you don’t need to discuss having 50/50 as long as it’s already a court order. Let your lawyer go.

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@Ashton
Going back to court on March 14 to finalize everything. After that, I can let my lawyer go. Even my lawyer is getting tired of this.

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Wynter said:
@Ashton
Going back to court on March 14 to finalize everything. After that, I can let my lawyer go. Even my lawyer is getting tired of this.

Request the app that most courts tell the parents to use. It’s monitored and documented for the courts. Using a lawyer for trivial stuff is frivolous, and the courts frown on that.
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Those two are the most common used. The court can put that in the order. I do know that one of them has a cost. The cost can be waived.

What she’s doing is petty and immature. Most courts take note of the pettiness. 50/50 custody means she doesn’t pay you child support.
Depending on the jurisdiction, some courts have an age where kids can testify to the judge who they would rather live with. If the custody changes to you, she will be paying child support.
Best wishes.

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Get a court approved parenting app and make all communication regarding the kids go through it.

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Emory said:
Get a court approved parenting app and make all communication regarding the kids go through it.

I have not thought about this. I’ll request it when I go back to court on March 14 to finalize everything.

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You keep everything. Regardless of how it sounds. If she wants to try ruin you. Let her try. She’s going in to this all emotional about something. Let her give you the rope. When you go to court… use that rope… and make sure it works…

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Is there anything saying you cant communicate directly with her? If not, do that. She can run up bills. No reason you have to go through counsel for issues related to parenting time.

In high conflict cases I tell clients to use Appclose to communicate with one another. Everything is in writing that way

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@Meech
There’s nothing preventing us from communicating with each other. It was to communicate only through email, unless there’s an emergency…we could call each other.

However, whenever I reply or send her a message…instead of replying back, she goes to her lawyer. 3 days later, my lawyer calls with a heavy sigh and says “sorry, she brought up another situation. What happened this time…?”