What's a fair amount of time to spend with grandparents?

I’m getting ready to go back to work full-time after being on maternity leave for 7.5 months (not excited about it). Before this, we used to see both sets of grandparents every weekend because they live in the same city. But now that I’ll be working Monday to Friday, I think weekends should be for our little family too, and for activities like clubs.

We’ve told my mother-in-law that we won’t be able to see her every week anymore, and she’s not happy about it. I don’t think it’s unreasonable for us to want time together on weekends. We’ll still see the grandparents, maybe every two weeks or so. I just wanted to know if this seems fair or if we’re being too strict. What do other families do, and does it work for you? Thanks a lot!

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hi brother just tell them about your new workshedule and plan your timetable on when to visit and alert them before going to avoid inconviences

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Not in my case.

My early years were influenced by my maternal grandmother, but my father felt I belonged with him across the ocean after my mother passed away when I was very small. Since then, she passed away.

Regarding my father’s parents. Since my father reared me, you would think I spent a lot of time with them, but I didn’t. As you can see, my father comes from a big, close-knit family, but I’ve never been that way about families.I’m not a particularly amiable person. I still vividly recall my grandmother asking, “Will you be bringing the older one too?” when my father called to say he was going to bring my younger brother (my half brother) around. He would give me a look, decide he would rather not deal with people asking him why I’m so icy, and answer, “No, she’s staying at home.” Avoid asking. With her, everything are always the same.Without offending his mother, he intended to imply, “I’m not interested, and they’d have a lot more fun without me.” My paternal grandparents had known about me for the most of my life, but they hadn’t actually seen me until I was seven years old, and by then I wasn’t very responsive.I returned to Canada for education, not the USA, so FaceTime is how I keep in touch with my father. Recently, he asked whether it would be okay if he gave my paternal grandparents a recent photo of me. I’m not going to pretend to be different. I questioned him about the necessity for a fresh photo. He added that because the previous photo was taken more than five years ago, they didn’t need to, but they wanted to and wouldn’t stop talking about it. I told him that was all I had to give them was a picture.

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Just spend maximum time with them, life is short

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hi arthur plan your schedule,by establishing a schedule that suits all parties involved and encourages a positive relationship between grandparents and grandchildren.

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